Re: Mind's Eye trust

Stephen Covey's son has rolled out business training called "The Speed of Trust."  It gives a detailed chart of trust building and trust breaking behaviors and gives responsibility for trust building to each individual.  Yet group dynamics can either foster trust or mistrust depending on what behaviors are allowed.  The thing I find fascinating is that it is easy for a group to fall into a low trust dynamic if everyone isn't invested in the personal responsibility of earning trust, because we bring so much baggage into every relationship and group.  And creating a high trust environment requires that everyone be willing to self examine and self correct their own low trust behaviors. A lot easier than it sounds, can be downright painful sometimes. We wrap ourselves in defenses of low trust behaviors like gossip (to pump ourselves up and create artificial bonds), saying yes without intention to deliver (the easy way out), over promising (also makes us feel good in the moment and is habitual,) cynicism (allows us to reject everything).

I still think that at our individual foundation, a core trust is required to carry on.  Trust in ourselves, in others, in life, maybe even as part of our own self image.  It becomes complicated when we have to figure out the layers of defense we've built for ourselves.  And those defenses can be critical to survival, if we live in a war zone of any kind. Is it important that we know ourselves well enough to understand how all of this works for us? Will understanding improve our lives or just distract us from what is more important?

On Tuesday, September 2, 2014 9:02:10 PM UTC-4, facilitator wrote:

I trust anyone who earns my trust.

Many a sad epitaph begins with "We thought we could trust them".  To me, trust is like the medial moraines on a glacier.

On Sunday, August 31, 2014 11:41:57 AM UTC-4, Molly wrote:

A consideration of trust does require self examination. Who do I trust, how, when, why? Do I trust the intentions of others? So I trust that politicians, in general, are working in the best interest of their constituents? When things seem to go "wrong," do I trust that everything will be alright? Can I trust that I will persevere in every circumstance?

In every case there is a relationship between self and other or self and group that requires clear perceptions and understanding of the people and dynamic. I think that clarity, or lack of, often creates barriers to trust and challenges in dynamic.

But no matter what we are experiencing at any given time, a certain amount of trust is required to continue the momentum in life.  Trust that life works, that I can work in life. If I am not trusting others, how does that effect my experience. My viewpoint? My life? What do you think?

On Friday, August 29, 2014 5:43:21 PM UTC-4, Molly wrote:

Doubt is another good topic. The movie with Meryl Streep and Phillip Seymour Hoffman was terrific. Made me examine at my own doubt.

Trusting yourself is the crux I suppose. Some people never fail to disappoint and in those cases, trusting yourself may redeem the experience.

On Friday, August 29, 2014 5:08:15 PM UTC-4, Allan Heretic wrote:

Wasn't it Kipling that said "If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you and make allowances for their doubting too,"

Allan
Living Soul

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From: Molly <moll...@gmail.com>
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Sent: Fri, 29 Aug 2014 10:57 PM
Subject: Mind's Eye trust

I've been thinking about something that Don said, about not trusting many people.  Is trust important in our relationships?  Can we extend trust to everyone, at least a modicum of it? What does it take to trust someone completely?

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