[Mind's Eye] Re: Little Women and Men

I've got some "hot" insights, as well! :-) I was a parent for 45 years
and came to the "profession" as a complete dolt. I will think about
this today, kid (here's thinking of you...), but am busy with outdoor
chores before winter arrives. My youngest son's friend is helping out-
though I am paying him. Yesterday he gave me his old 16' ladder which
was like a bouquet of roses- shows you where my needs and wants are at
the moment- I only had a 5' step ladder after getting rid of a 36'
wooden monster that took two burly men to lift. My neighbor always
lent us one of his but this will be handy. Also my two sons and
daughter are all flying in for Thansgiving which may seem far off but
am trying to clear the list of "to do's" so we can just relax and have
fun. Also one grand-daughter "won" the short straw for the trip.
Anyway- I do have some thoughts on your thoughts and they do come up
in conversations with my adult children esp. as they observe their own
children.

On Oct 4, 8:29 am, "pol.science kid" <r.freeb...@gmail.com> wrote:
> Hey there everyone, the other day i was sitting around and thinking
> about my grown upness, the fact that having passed childhood proven
> that i can sit and reminisce about it... i have a question about the
> categorisations.. are they purely biological?... but that was beside
> the point... what i was thinking was... i was sometimes very mean and
> selfish whe younger... and since i can take an objective view now...
> the little 'me'disgusts me sometimes... i am speaking in terms of
> 'morality'... now considering 'morality' in the adult world is much
> debated... then its even harder to define it for children.. my
> question is ... how is morality for children different ... if a child
> does something mean... we dont pay much attention to it... we just let
> it off.. saying you know so and so is a kid.... well thats what makes
> it harder for me to understand... a child... acting selfish... is i
> suppose forgivable.. he or she hasnt been conditioned to 'hide' their
> selfishness... but doing harm ... or causing pain to the other.. that
> should be taken seroiusly...if they enjoy kiiling an insect.. enjoy
> torturing an animal...it really baffles me when some children do
> that ..and they do indeed ... if a child is not 'conditioned' how will
> she or he grow up to be...we cant realy tell cause we will never be
> able to provide that kind of vaccum... there arguments that say the
> whole morality thing is just a survival thing.. like the social
> contract or whatever.... Why do we say children are innocent.. by
> innocent do we mean they dont have a 'social curtain' thing... its all
> out in the open whatever there is... Different communities have
> different attitudes towards children right... i often think of the
> children on the street... they learn survival really quick... what
> would their 'morals' be.. what do you think?... and also Parents...
> what if the parents that raise a particular child.. are well
> 'depraved' according to standards... is it necessary that the child
> will pick up that... or he/she might pick up the complete oppositite
> values... without there being much socialisation... is it
> possible?....i kinda jumbled it... but its all out... tell me what you
> think.. anything at all... like Rigs quite often has some cool
> insights about parent children realtionships...