[Mind's Eye] Re: friend?

A wonderful Ode to Friendship...."Still Here"...Jennifer Hudson.

On Jun 19, 10:52 pm, "pol.science kid" <r.freeb...@gmail.com> wrote:
> a few days back i read some post somewhere about the lack of
> literature on friendship in philosophy mainly...and how it has been
> ignored and so on.... so it got me thinking about the whole
> affair...Friendship.... i asked myself who my friends were...i am very
> casual in calling people my friends... in fact i realised i didnt
> really pay much attention to it.... the word i mean... i wouldnt know
> who to call my best friend...or a close and intimate friend...
> because..it happens so to the person  whom i would reveal my dearest
> thoughts would be a relative stranger..in fact i dont do it
> much...share thoughts..personal ones...i do it here but... maybe
> because of the anonymity it lends.... plus i tend to outgrow some
> friends... i know it sounds horrible..i dont really do it on
> purpose..outgrow would mean... gradually losing touch...after i move
> or something... i am sorry i dont want to make this some sort of
> confession...but there are so many questions that confront and rack my
> brain sometimes....  is it later in life that one makes real
> friends...i mean after youve left that peer space...school or
> college...l in fact leave that...its not that significant... I once
> decided that Friendship is a vague term altogether... there are
> individual relationships...each having a different bearing... like a
> security personnel at your college gate... you get the point... I know
> this is a very vast topic.and i cant really analyse it right now cos
> this is a kind of spontaneous typing....so let me get to another
> point.... like i mentioned above i seem careless of friends...but yet
> i sometimes complain of the loneliness... which can be suffocating...
> and yet i draw a line and withdraw if any relation touches on lines of
> very personal.... i think one regards personal what one considers
> sacred... like ones thoughts..contemplations...   my question is....is
> it possible to bond with Another... in an aristotelian way... because
> i believe one can give ones life for someone but still be out of
> something very impersonal.... are there some ...too self
> absorbed...that it is almost impossible to connect on that level... it
> is strange i have such high demands for any 'connection'...and yet i
> am convinced there is no way i can really be with another according to
> my standard... this must be awfully confusing... but there are many
> smart people here ho might  get the basic point.....
> who is a friend?
> can one really defeat the loneliness or is this loneliness only
> immaturity on the souls part......
> the question is now to you my 'friends'...convince me for something if
> you will.........