Re: Mind's Eye self forgiveness

But self-forgiveness is a key feature of Al-Anon and children of
alcoholics also, Allan- and just as difficult as the process gone
through by the drinker. //I rarely heard anyone speak of remorse in
AA- in fact many were still celebrating their messes when they gave
talks.



On Jul 17, 8:33 am, Allan H <allanh1...@gmail.com> wrote:
> Hoi Molly,
> self forgiveness is kid of a strange process,,  forgiveness involves the
> idea we have done something wrong or doing something harmful to ourselves
> or others.  It also implies that we want to change our ways..  An example
> might be my being alcoholic.  I stopped drinking in december of 1979 (one
> or to days ago..) . The part of the process of forgiving myself for the
> harm I was doing to myself was I had to stop drinking. Simply put I had to
> change my ways so I 'sinned' no more.  From there I had to attempt to
> straighten out the harm that I had done, I needed to take an moral
> inventory..   asking forgiveness where possible but I had no right to take
> others inventory to justify my actions by what they did to me.. in the
> process you find forgiveness.
>
> One of the best sources for understanding is the 12 step program of AA,,
>  unfortunately some lawyers have gotten involved..  but the program is
> still out there and it really will work on anything.. you just have to
> apply the principles .. they really do work and forgiveness is there. The
> 12 steps (program) is an excellent set written of guidelines that have
> proven their value.
> Allan
>
> On Tue, Jul 17, 2012 at 12:50 PM, Molly <mollyb...@gmail.com> wrote:
> > I have a friend who is contemplating self forgiveness.  Any suggestions?
>
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> |_D Allan
>
> Life is for moral, ethical and truthful living.